Is Your Relationship Healthy? - Free Online Quiz

Ready for the test?

60 of the questions asked. The engine draws new ones every round: start the test above.

1. When you have something important to say to your partner, what usually happens?

   • I prefer to stay silent to avoid conflicts.
   • I express it but it often goes badly.
   • I say it calmly and they listen.
   • We talk openly and look for a solution together.

2. How do you handle disagreements in your relationship?

   • One of us always gives in without really being convinced.
   • We avoid the topic until it's forgotten.
   • We discuss it even if it's difficult.
   • We listen to each other and find a compromise.

3. Does your partner really listen when you talk?

   • Rarely, they're often distracted.
   • Sometimes, it depends on the moment.
   • Most of the time, yes.
   • Always, they give me their full attention.

4. Do you talk about your deep feelings (fears, doubts, emotions)?

   • Never, that's not our style.
   • Occasionally but it's difficult.
   • Fairly regularly.
   • Yes, it's a habit in our relationship.

5. When you're angry, how does your partner react?

   • They also get upset or shut down completely.
   • They get defensive but eventually calm down.
   • They try to understand what's wrong.
   • They step back and create space for us to talk.

6. Do you have deep conversations about your future together?

   • No, we avoid that topic.
   • Rarely and it's often tense.
   • Sometimes, when the opportunity arises.
   • Yes, regularly and with pleasure.

7. Does your partner say 'thank you' or express gratitude daily?

   • Never or almost never.
   • Rarely.
   • Sometimes.
   • Often, it's natural between us.

8. Do you feel free to say 'no' to your partner?

   • No, I'm afraid of their reaction.
   • It's difficult, I prefer to avoid it.
   • Generally yes.
   • Always, and they accept it very well.

9. Do you trust your partner when they go out without you?

   • No, I'm often anxious.
   • I can have some questions.
   • I trust them most of the time.
   • Yes, completely, without any doubt.

10. Does your partner respect your opinions even when they disagree?

    • No, they criticize or mock them.
    • Sometimes, it depends on the topic.
    • Often yes.
    • Always, they know our differences are normal.

11. Have you ever felt like your partner is manipulating you?

    • Yes, regularly.
    • Sometimes, I wonder.
    • Rarely.
    • No, never.

12. Does your partner respect your personal boundaries?

    • No, they cross them often.
    • Sometimes they don't understand them.
    • Generally yes.
    • Always, even without me needing to remind them.

13. Do you feel respected in your relationship in front of others?

    • No, they sometimes put me down in public.
    • I'm not always comfortable.
    • Yes, overall.
    • Yes, completely, I feel valued.

14. Is your relationship based on mutual trust?

    • No, there are important gray areas.
    • Trust is still lacking.
    • Yes, overall.
    • Yes, it's the foundation of our relationship.

15. Does your partner keep their promises?

    • Rarely.
    • Sometimes.
    • Often.
    • Almost always.

16. Are you afraid to share your mistakes or failures with your partner?

    • Yes, I'm afraid of being judged.
    • Sometimes I prefer not to say anything.
    • I tell them most of the time.
    • No, I feel safe to share everything.

17. Do you have time for your friends and hobbies outside the relationship?

    • No, I've lost it since we've been together.
    • Very little, it's not encouraged.
    • Yes, even if it's sometimes an issue.
    • Yes, we encourage each other in our own lives.

18. Does your partner tolerate you spending time with your loved ones?

    • No, they're jealous or it creates tension.
    • It depends, sometimes badly.
    • Generally yes.
    • Always, they even encourage you.

19. Do you both have personal projects outside the relationship?

    • No, everything revolves around the couple.
    • Few, we don't talk about it.
    • Yes, a bit.
    • Yes, and we support each other.

20. Are your personal decisions (work, leisure) respected?

    • No, my partner controls them.
    • Sometimes they try to influence them.
    • Generally yes.
    • Yes, I have full autonomy.

21. Can you spend time apart without it creating tension?

    • No, it's a source of conflict.
    • It's sometimes complicated.
    • It goes well overall.
    • Yes, we each know how to enjoy our space.

22. Do you feel like you have to account for your every move?

    • Yes, all the time.
    • Often.
    • Sometimes.
    • No, we trust each other.

23. Does your relationship have a healthy balance between shared and personal life?

    • No, one takes over the other.
    • It's hard to find.
    • We're working on it and making progress.
    • Yes, we've found a good balance.

24. Do you feel free to express your personality in the relationship?

    • No, I feel suffocated.
    • Sometimes I hold back.
    • Often yes.
    • Yes, I feel fully myself.

25. Is physical affection (hugs, kisses, tenderness) present in your relationship?

    • No, it's almost disappeared.
    • Rarely.
    • Sometimes.
    • Yes, it's an important part of our relationship.

26. Does your partner express affection spontaneously?

    • Never.
    • Rarely, only when I ask.
    • From time to time.
    • Yes, often and naturally.

27. Do you feel desired by your partner?

    • No, not at all.
    • Rarely.
    • Most of the time.
    • Yes, they make me feel it regularly.

28. Can you talk openly about your intimate life?

    • No, it's taboo.
    • It's difficult.
    • We can talk about it.
    • Yes, we communicate freely about it.

29. Does your intimate life satisfy both of you?

    • No, there's a real imbalance.
    • One of us is often unsatisfied.
    • Overall yes.
    • Yes, we take care of it together.

30. Do you make time for shared fun (laughing, games, activities)?

    • No, it's rare.
    • Sometimes.
    • Quite often.
    • Yes, it's a priority for us.

31. Does your partner support you during difficult times?

    • No, I'm often alone with my problems.
    • Not always, it depends.
    • Most of the time.
    • Yes, always, they're a pillar for me.

32. Do you do little things for each other?

    • No, that's been forgotten for a long time.
    • Rarely.
    • Sometimes.
    • Yes, regularly.

33. How do your conflicts usually end?

    • With resentment on both sides.
    • One apologizes without the problem being resolved.
    • We end up finding common ground.
    • We truly reconcile and move forward together.

34. Do you bring up old conflicts to hurt each other?

    • Yes, often.
    • Sometimes.
    • Rarely.
    • No, never.

35. Does your partner use hurtful words during arguments?

    • Yes, regularly.
    • Sometimes.
    • Rarely.
    • No, even when angry they're careful.

36. After a conflict, can you truly forgive each other?

    • No, resentment lingers.
    • With difficulty.
    • Generally yes.
    • Yes, we truly turn the page.

37. Does one of you always give in, even reluctantly?

    • Yes, always the same one.
    • Often.
    • Sometimes.
    • No, we seek balanced compromises.

38. Do you have recurring conflicts about the same issues?

    • Yes, on repeat for a long time.
    • Often.
    • Sometimes.
    • No, we manage to truly resolve them.

39. Can you express dissatisfaction without triggering a crisis?

    • No, it's always explosive.
    • It's risky.
    • Generally yes.
    • Yes, we can do it calmly.

40. Can your couple handle external stress (work, family) without turning on each other?

    • No, external tensions tear us apart.
    • It's difficult.
    • We manage overall.
    • Yes, we stick together during those times.

41. Do you have shared projects, short or long term?

    • No, none.
    • Few and vague.
    • Yes, a few.
    • Yes, we're clearly building a future together.

42. Are you aligned on important topics (children, home, finances)?

    • No, we avoid talking about it.
    • We disagree on most things.
    • We're generally aligned.
    • Yes, we share the same essential visions.

43. Do you support each other in your professional and personal ambitions?

    • No, we hold each other back.
    • Sometimes yes, sometimes no.
    • Generally yes.
    • Always, we're each other's biggest fans.

44. Do you project yourselves together into the future?

    • No, I can't project myself.
    • It's unclear.
    • Yes, a bit.
    • Yes, clearly and with enthusiasm.

45. If a major difficulty arose, do you think your couple would survive?

    • Honestly, I doubt it.
    • I have concerns.
    • Probably yes.
    • Yes, I'm convinced.

46. Are your core values compatible?

    • No, we're very different on the essentials.
    • There are significant disagreements.
    • We're fairly compatible.
    • Yes, our values align deeply.

47. Do you share a common vision of family life?

    • No, our views are opposite.
    • We haven't really discussed it.
    • We've agreed on the big points.
    • Yes, we're perfectly aligned.

48. Are you both willing to compromise for your shared future?

    • No, one always imposes their vision.
    • With difficulty.
    • We try.
    • Yes, we're both ready to give.

49. Do you feel happy in this relationship most of the time?

    • No, I suffer more than I thrive.
    • Sometimes yes, sometimes no.
    • Generally yes.
    • Yes, I feel fulfilled.

50. Does this relationship give you energy or take it away?

    • It exhausts me.
    • More often one than the other.
    • It gives me energy overall.
    • It's a true source of vitality.

51. Do you feel valued by your partner?

    • No, rather put down.
    • Not enough.
    • Yes, most of the time.
    • Yes, they sincerely value me.

52. Have you ever thought you deserve better?

    • Yes, often.
    • Sometimes.
    • Rarely.
    • No, I'm happy where I am.

53. Has your mental health deteriorated since you've been together?

    • Yes, significantly.
    • A little.
    • No, it hasn't changed.
    • No, it's even improved.

54. Are you yourself in this relationship?

    • No, I play a role.
    • I hide sometimes.
    • For the most part, yes.
    • Completely, I'm fully myself.

55. Do you feel emotionally safe in this couple?

    • No, I'm often afraid of hurting or being hurt.
    • Not always.
    • Yes, overall.
    • Yes, completely.

56. Do you think your partner sincerely wants your happiness?

    • No, I don't think so.
    • I'm not sure.
    • I believe so.
    • Yes, I'm certain.

57. Are daily tasks shared fairly?

    • No, one person does everything.
    • There's a real imbalance.
    • Overall yes.
    • Yes, we share tasks fairly.

58. Are important decisions made together?

    • No, one decides for both.
    • One always has more weight.
    • Generally we decide together.
    • Yes, it's always a shared decision.

59. Does your partner acknowledge your efforts?

    • No, it's never noticed.
    • Rarely.
    • Sometimes.
    • Yes, often.

60. Are finances managed fairly?

    • No, it's a source of injustice.
    • There are tensions about it.
    • We manage well overall.
    • Yes, we handle it transparently and fairly.