There isn't one right type of couple, there are four
People often think a happy couple looks like something specific: lots of time together, lots of laughter, plans. In real life, the couples that last don't look alike at all.
This quiz sorts couples into four big families. The inseparables do almost everything as a pair, and they love it. With the partners in crime, everything goes through laughter. The independents each have their own life and come back together in the evening. And the builders are heading somewhere: a flat, a child, a project.
None of these four ways of living as a couple is better than another. Each has its strength, and each has a weak spot you don't see because you're inside it. They're detailed just below.
What the quiz gives you is a name for what you are, and one thing to keep an eye on. It sounds simple, but putting a word on your way of living as a couple changes quite a few things. You understand why a certain friend thinks you never see each other anymore, or why the other one needed some air last month.
The four types of couple
The Inseparables
Their strength: a security few people know. You're never alone, someone is always expecting you somewhere. Inseparables understand each other quickly, because they live the same things at the same time.
What to keep an eye on: the lack of air. When everything is lived as a pair, there's nothing left to tell each other in the evening. And the day one of you needs an evening to themselves, the other can take it as rejection when it isn't one.
The Partners in Crime
Their strength: lightness. A bad day ends with an evening spent making fun of everything, and tensions don't settle in. These are the couples you invite to be sure the evening will go well.
What to keep an eye on: humour as a hiding place. When a subject hurts, a joke arrives and the conversation stops. Some things need to be said without laughing, and for partners in crime, that takes a small effort.
The Independents
Their strength: nobody feels smothered. Each has their friends, their projects, sometimes their holidays, and what's shared is chosen. Independents often last a long time, precisely because the relationship doesn't weigh on them.
What to keep an eye on: the flatmate trap. Getting along well while each leading your own life, you can end up sharing a flat more than a story. A fixed date, just the two of you, is usually enough to avoid that.
The Builders
Their strength: a direction. They know where they're going, they talk about money openly, they make plans. A couple heading somewhere gets through the flat periods better, because it has a reason to wait.
What to keep an eye on: the emptiness after the building site. Once the flat is bought and the child is asleep, there has to be something left to say to each other. Builders do well to keep room for what serves no purpose.
Many couples are a mix of two families. If your top two bars are close, read both profiles: it's often the mix that describes you best.
How to answer, and what the result says
You answer together, on the same phone. For each situation, four answers, one per type of couple. You pick the one that looks most like you, even if none fits perfectly. When you disagree, that's exactly where it gets interesting! Talk for two minutes, then pick the answer that describes what you actually do, not what you'd like to do.
The order of the answers changes with every question, so you can't answer "always the first one" without reading. At the end, you see the four bars and the profile that stands out. If no family clearly dominates, the quiz says so rather than deciding by a single vote: that's the chameleon couple, which changes with the period.
This quiz describes your way of living as a couple. It doesn't measure how solid your relationship is, or the way each of you loves taken separately. And if you want to know through which gestures the other feels loved, that's something else again: your partner's love language is measured with a separate test.
