Are You Ready to Get Married? Couple Marriage Test

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All 30 questions, in order. Start the test above to get your result.

1. How will you manage your money once married?

   • We'll have a joint account to manage everything together.
   • We'll keep separate accounts + a joint account for shared expenses.
   • We haven't discussed this clearly yet.
   • We haven't agreed and it's already causing tension.

2. In case of a significant income difference, how do you handle shared expenses?

   • Each contributes proportionally to their income.
   • 50/50, regardless of income.
   • The wealthier one pays for everything, without really discussing it.
   • We haven't thought about it.

3. Do you have an aligned vision on savings and investments?

   • Yes, we share the same priorities and have set common goals.
   • We don't have the same habits yet but we're ready to discuss it.
   • One saves, the other spends, and it creates friction.

4. Have you discussed debt management (loans, credit) before marriage?

   • Yes, we're transparent about our respective financial situations.
   • Partially, there are still gray areas.
   • No, we avoid the topic.

5. Do you want children?

   • Yes, both of us, and we agree on the timing.
   • No, both of us, it's a conscious decision.
   • Yes both of us, but we disagree on timing or number.
   • One wants them, the other doesn't know or doesn't want them.

6. If you have children, who will mainly handle their daily upbringing?

   • We share equally, we've discussed it.
   • We'll adapt based on circumstances (work, availability).
   • We assume one will take the lead but haven't really talked about it.

7. Do you share the same vision of how to raise your children?

   • Yes, we share the same core educational values.
   • We have some differences but can talk about them.
   • We have very different views and it's not yet resolved.

8. How do you manage the relationship with your respective in-laws?

   • We get along well and have established healthy boundaries together.
   • It's sometimes complicated but we stick together.
   • One of us endures the in-laws without it being discussed.

9. How are household chores divided between you?

   • 50/50, we've found a balance that works for us.
   • Not exactly 50/50 but each contributes in their own way, without frustration.
   • One does almost everything, and it doesn't bother the other.
   • One does more than the other, and it creates tension.

10. Do you have the same standards of cleanliness and organization at home?

    • Yes, or at least compatible, no conflict there.
    • We have differences but know how to adapt.
    • It often generates conflicts.

11. If the mental load is unbalanced (organizing, planning, groceries…), what happens?

    • We've identified it together and are working to better balance it.
    • One carries more but it's acknowledged and being improved.
    • One carries everything and the other doesn't really realize it.

12. Do you have compatible religious or spiritual beliefs?

    • Yes, we share the same beliefs or fully respect each other on this.
    • We have differences but it's never been a major issue.
    • It's a source of tension and we haven't found balance.

13. Are your core values (honesty, fidelity, family, freedom…) aligned?

    • Yes, we share the same essential values.
    • Generally yes, with some nuances.
    • No, we have quite opposing views on certain key values.

14. Do you share the same political views or at least mutual respect for differences?

    • We're aligned or fully respect our differences.
    • We have disagreements but they don't create deep conflicts.
    • Our political differences create real tensions.

15. Are you comfortable with each other's friend circles?

    • Yes, we get along well with each other's friends and feel comfortable.
    • We don't see them much but without tensions.
    • One doesn't appreciate the other's friends, and it's a source of conflict.

16. Can each of you see your friends freely without jealousy or tension?

    • Yes, completely, we trust each other.
    • Generally yes, with some moments of discomfort.
    • No, it's often a source of tension or control.

17. Do you have a healthy balance between couple time and individual time?

    • Yes, we've found a good balance.
    • We're in the process of finding it.
    • One always wants more time together or apart, and it's problematic.

18. Are you both satisfied with your intimate life?

    • Yes, we communicate about it and are well aligned.
    • There are things to improve but we can talk about it.
    • It's a taboo topic or a source of dissatisfaction on both sides.

19. Do you have the same definition of fidelity?

    • Yes, absolutely, we're on the same page.
    • We've had this conversation and clarified things.
    • We've never really talked about it clearly.

20. In case of distance or asymmetric desire, how do you react?

    • We talk about it openly and look for solutions together.
    • It's difficult but we try to address it.
    • We ignore it or it creates silent tensions.

21. Do you share the same vision of where you want to live (city, countryside, country)?

    • Yes, we're aligned.
    • We have different preferences but are ready to compromise.
    • We have very different views and it's not resolved.

22. Are your respective career ambitions compatible with your shared life plan?

    • Yes, we mutually support each other's ambitions.
    • There are trade-offs to make but we're open to discussing them.
    • Our ambitions conflict, and we don't know how to handle it yet.

23. In case of geographical mobility (transfer, opportunity elsewhere), how do you approach it?

    • We would decide together considering both projects.
    • We haven't really thought about it but would assess at that time.
    • One would inevitably follow the other without really having a say.

24. Do you have concrete shared projects (real estate, travel, creation…)?

    • Yes, we have clearly defined shared projects.
    • We have desires but nothing concrete yet.
    • We don't really envision things together.

25. When you have a major disagreement, how does it go?

    • We listen to each other, seek compromise, it usually ends well.
    • It's sometimes difficult but we manage.
    • It often escalates or one gives in without conviction.

26. Can you tell each other difficult things without hurting the other?

    • Yes, we've learned to communicate without attacking.
    • We try, with occasional missteps.
    • Difficult conversations often end in hurt.

27. After a conflict, can you truly move on?

    • Yes, we reconcile sincerely and move forward.
    • It takes time but we get there.
    • Resentment often lingers, we bring up old conflicts.

28. Have you discussed your respective emotional needs and how to feel supported?

    • Yes, we know each other well on this and respond to it.
    • Partially, there are still things to explore.
    • No, we've never really asked ourselves this question.

29. Would you be willing to see a couples therapist if you went through a serious crisis?

    • Yes, both of us, without hesitation.
    • One is open, the other more reluctant.
    • No, neither of us is in favor.

30. In summary, do you feel you're truly ready to get married?

    • Yes, both of us, clearly and serenely.
    • We think so, but with some doubts.
    • One is ready, the other much less so.
    • We're not sure, that's why we're taking this test.