Purity Test for Couples

Ready for the test?

A look at the questions in the test. Start it above to get your score.

Have you ever kissed someone else at a party and never mentioned it?

Never
A peck doesn't count
Yes, and I hid it
Yes, several times

Have you ever stayed in touch with an ex while in a relationship?

No
A birthday once a year
We talked often
Behind their back, yes

Have you ever been too close to someone without anything physical happening?

No
A slightly blurry friendship
We said things we shouldn't have
It was an affair, minus the body

Have you ever flirted at work or in class while taken?

Never
A bit, for the game
Enough to ask myself questions
It ended up going too far

Have you ever deleted a conversation before your partner could see it?

Never
Once, nothing serious
Regularly
I have a second phone

Have you ever lied about your romantic past?

Never
I rounded a number down
I hid a whole relationship
My official version is nowhere near the truth

Have you ever pretended to be down to get attention?

Never
A little, without meaning to
Yes, knowingly
It's a reflex with me

Have you ever talked badly about your partner to people close to you?

Never
A normal vent
I shared private things
I said genuinely ugly things

Have you ever lied about where you were?

Never
To avoid an argument
To hide someone
Often, it became a system

Have you ever pretended to love a gift?

No, I say what I think
Yes, out of politeness
Yes, and I resold it
Yes, and I threw it out

Have you ever gone through someone's phone?

Never
I looked at a lit screen
Yes, behind their back
Regularly

Have you ever ghosted someone overnight?

Never
After one or two dates
After several months
After a real relationship

Have you ever hidden something serious from your partner?

Nothing serious
A flirt, one dance too many
A kiss
Far worse than that

Have you ever been drunk enough to lose part of the night?

Never
Once
Several times
Too often to count

Have you ever run a night straight through to breakfast?

Never
Once
Several times
It's my favourite format

Have you ever driven after drinking?

Never
One glass, a long time ago
Yes, more than once
Yes, and it scared me

Have you ever been sick at a party in front of everyone?

Never
Discreetly
With witnesses
On someone

Have you ever thought your in-laws were a bit much?

I love them
One or two irritations
Yes, honestly
I avoid them when I can

Have you ever lied to your parents about a relationship?

Never
I left out details
I hid someone completely
I invented a whole other life

Have you ever introduced someone to your parents knowing it wouldn't last?

Never
I had doubts
I knew perfectly well
Several times

Have you ever spent the holidays with someone you'd stopped loving?

Never
One meal
The whole holidays
And I played along completely

Have you ever picked a night out over something important with family?

Never
Once
Several times
It's a classic with me

Have you ever had a secret account on social media?

Never
An account just to look
An account to talk to people
An account nobody knows about

Have you ever stalked an ex or their new partner?

Never
A quick scroll
Regularly
I went back through years of photos

Have you ever sent a message you regretted the next morning?

Never
An awkward message
A message I had to explain
A message that broke everything

Have you ever stolen something?

Never
A sweet, as a kid
Something of real value
Several times

Have you ever skipped class or work to stay with someone?

Never
One morning
A whole day
Several days

Have you ever done something properly illegal to impress someone?

Never
A harmless stunt
Something serious
And I got in trouble

Have you ever been caught red-handed by someone?

Never
A friend
My parents
Strangers

What is a purity test, exactly?

A long list of things people do. You tick the ones you've already done. The more you tick, the higher the score, and the less « pure » you are.

The format has been floating around American campuses for decades and it exploded on social media, because it produces exactly what everyone is after in a party game: a number to compare. No interpretation, no psychological profile, just a figure you can drop into a conversation.

Stylised pink and purple thermometer surrounded by hearts, illustrating the couple purity test

50 questions per mode

899 maximum points

7 scored categories

2 game modes

The version in front of you is written for couples. No questions about fraternities or skipped lectures: this is about exes, lies, nights that got out of hand, things hidden from a partner, and things done together.

Why it works so well as a pair

Because a score gets compared. You take the test on your own, you send your result, and the conversation starts by itself. Nine times out of ten the real discussion isn't about the score but about the one question that made someone pause, and from there you end up on questions you never ask each other.

How your score is calculated

Not every question is worth the same number of points, and that's the whole point. A flat scale where each tick counts for one gives everybody the same result: a big cluster in the middle, nobody at the extremes, and a figure that says nothing.

Three answers, three weights

The answer	What it costs
Leaving a party without telling anyone	8 points
Doing it in public, where you could have been seen	26 points
Driving after drinking	27 points

A daft moment at a party and something that can kill someone shouldn't weigh the same.

Each question also offers three to five degrees instead of a yes or a no. « Have you ever cheated on someone? » doesn't call for the same answer depending on whether it was a kiss at a party or a six-month double life, and the scale reflects that.

Solo or together: what changes

The two modes don't ask the same questions and don't score the same thing. Choose before you start, you can't switch halfway.

Each on your own

The questions are about you. Your past, your exes, what you hid, what you never told anyone. This is the mode to pick if you want to send your score and dare someone to match it.

Together, as a couple

It's no longer two people being scored, it's one story: what you did together, where you did it, and what you kept from each other. Answers are said out loud, which makes this mode considerably more dangerous.

The couple mode and the standard couple test don't tread on each other: one measures what you've done, the other where the relationship stands today. Taking them back to back gives two very different readings of the same couple.

What the test looks at

Questions are split into categories, and the result breaks your score down for each one. That's usually where the surprise turns up: you think you're well behaved because the total is average, and you discover you're at 90% in a single family.

The seven solo categories

🔥 Sex: body count, firsts, experiences, places
💔 Cheating: from a kiss at a party to a double life
🎭 Lies: what you tidied up, left out, deleted
🍸 Booze & co: nights out, excess, and what comes with it
👪 Family: in-laws, parents, holidays endured
📱 Online life: nudes, secret accounts, morning-after messages
🚨 Off limits: theft, stupidity, getting caught

The category that hurts most is almost never the expected one. It's lies that push the most scores up, not sex.

The six couple categories

🔥 Sex: what you've tried, and where
👀 Getting caught: the risk of being seen, owned or not
💫 Open stuff: threesomes, swapping, open relationships
🍸 Substances: nights out, being under the influence, the morning after
🚨 Crossing lines: casinos, off-limits places, lies told together
🤐 Secrets: what the other one still doesn't know

It's the secrets category that separates couples. Two couples with exactly the same past can end up a hundred points apart, purely on what they told each other.

Is a high score bad?

A high score doesn't say you're a good person or a bad one. It says you've done things.

Some of them are memories from a night out, others are mistakes, and the test doesn't tell them apart: it counts, that's all. The reading is yours to do.

Where the result gets interesting is when two people compare it. Three hundred points between two partners isn't a problem in itself, but it often explains tensions nobody could name. The other way round, two very close scores are more reassuring than any compatibility test.

The questions we get asked

Is the purity test free?

Yes, entirely. No account to create, no email to hand over, no paid version that unlocks the real result. You answer, you get your score, that's it.

Are my answers stored somewhere?

No. No individual answer is kept. Only the final score is recorded, with nothing that could point back to you, and it only serves to work out the average and the curve shown on the page.

How long does it take?

Five to seven minutes for the fifty solo questions. As a couple it takes longer, because you'll stop to talk at least three times, and that's rather the point.

What counts as a good score?

There isn't one. Most people land between 25 and 40% of the maximum, so a result around 250 to 350 points. Below that you're very well behaved, above it you have a history, but neither is better than the other.

Can more than two people play?

Couple mode is built for two. Nothing stops a whole group from taking the solo mode separately and comparing scores afterwards though: that's the best use of the test when there are several of you.

What's the minimum age?

The test asks your age before it starts. Under 16, an all-audiences version is served, and the teen couple quiz is probably the better fit: it removes the explicit sex and drug questions and keeps everything about lies, family, nights out and secrets.

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The score is in, the evening isn't over.

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