This test is played by two people, on one phone. You each answer the same 20 questions separately, and at the end the game counts the identical answers. It's very simple, and that's exactly what makes it work: you can't cheat, you only discover what the other answered once you've answered yourself.
What common ground does for a couple
Let's be honest: nobody stays with someone because they also like the mountains. What identical answers really tell you is something else. When you both answer the same to "what matters most, family or freedom?", you've just learned that your two lives pull in the same direction. And day to day, that shows up everywhere: in decisions, in weekends, in what you argue about and what you never argue about.
Differences have their role too, by the way. A couple that answers everything the same doesn't exist, and it would be bored. The point is knowing where you're alike and where you're not. Most couples only half know, and that's exactly what the game puts on the table.
What the score tells you, and what it doesn't
The score counts your identical answers over 20 questions. It tells you where you meet, it doesn't tell you whether your relationship is doing well. Those are two different things: very different people can form a very solid couple, and two taste-twins can make each other miserable. If it's the state of your relationship you want to measure, we have a test built for that, which rates how solid the couple is rather than how similar you are.
The real point of the score is what happens right after. "Wait, what did you answer? Why?": that's the conversation the game creates, question after question. Most of the time, the best moment of a round isn't an identical answer, it's a disagreement you never suspected.
How a round goes
1. Enter your two first names
The game addresses each of you by name for the whole round.
2. Answer one after the other
One of you answers the 20 questions, hands the phone over, and the other answers the same ones, without seeing the first set of answers.
3. Compare
The game counts the identical answers and shows you where you meet. The fun part starts there.
What's inside the 153 questions
The game draws 20 questions at random out of 153, so no two rounds look alike, and you can restart straight from the end screen. The questions go from very light, "Coffee or tea?", "Sea or mountains?", to topics with a bit more at stake. Here are the six families:
Personality and character
Morning or evening person, patient or impulsive, the one who plans or the one who improvises.
Tastes and interests
Films, music, food, escape rooms. The lightest ground, and often the most surprising.
Values and outlook on life
Family, work, money, freedom. This is where identical answers weigh the most.
Daily life and habits
Pace of life, organisation, little quirks. Where you discover very concrete differences.
Relationship and intimacy
How you show affection, what each of you needs, what you expect from the other.
Plans and future
Travel, kids, a home. The questions couples keep putting off, asked simply.
How to read your result
A high score means you know each other well and your tastes overlap. That's nice to see, but don't stop there: look at which answers matched. Twenty identical answers about food and films don't tell the same story as five identical answers about family and money.
A low score doesn't mean things are off to a bad start. It means you're different, and sometimes that you know each other less than you thought. So pick two or three questions where your answers split and talk about them: it's often the best part of the evening.
Do you need a lot in common to be compatible?
No, and research on couples says it as clearly as common sense does. What brings two people together for the long run isn't shared tastes, it's shared values: the same idea of loyalty, of family, of what you do with your money and your time. Two people can hate each other's films and grow old together just fine.
If the question on your mind is broader than similarities, if you want to know whether your two ways of working fit together deep down, we built a test that measures that fit, values and characters included. The two work well together: this one for what you share, the other for how you adjust to each other.
The right moments to play it
There's no bad moment for this game, but some are better than others:
- •Early in a relationship: It's the simplest way to ask each other 20 real questions without it feeling like an interview.
- •After years together: That's when the surprises are the funniest. You think you know everything, and you're wrong about a quarter of the answers.
- •An evening going nowhere: Ten minutes, one phone, and the evening is back on track.
- •Long distance: Each of you plays on your own phone, and you compare on a video call. It works really well.
Your turn
Scroll back to the top, enter your names and start the round. And keep five minutes for the end: the answers that don't match are the best ones to talk about.
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